Soul Mate Connection and The Real Reason it hurts

You, Never Forget

                You meet someone, there is this instant connection and you connect on such a deep level, you don’t know it’s special. It just so magnetic and natural as if you’ve known each other before. You’re drawn like a moth to light. It just happens. That instant connection, that flick of flare, that beat that makes your heart skip, that’s a soul mate connection. The love of your life so to speak.  It’s also that terrible heart ache that rocks your world to the core. It’s that devastating blow to your world where you can’t speak, you can’t sleep and overall you just lose your sense of time. Nothing else matters. That terrible heart ache you never thought would end. Those endless nights you lay there awake, not able to sleep because you’re so overwhelmed by grief, it truly is a terrible loss.  It hurts, really, really , really hurts.

                I really loved the movie the Note Book. It’s one of my favorites.  Not because it was this cute love story, but because of its accurate portrayal of soulmates.   A boy falls in love and he never forgets. He gets older, but he never truly forgot her. He was lucky because in the end, he gets her back- but I have to say this isn’t always the case in real life.  And that’s ok! Soul mates, I hate to burst your bubble, but sometimes, (most of the time, ) you’re not supposed to live happily ever after! Everything has its cycle, and you get some and you lose some. Soul mates are no different, as a matter of fact, my angels have taught me, not only through my own life experiences, but for the clients I have read for, that soul mates come into a time in our lives when we are ready, they break our hearts so we can heal. When our hearts are broken, we can pick up the pieces and rebuild.

The cracking of our hearts is an amazing experiencing, that yes, hurts like hell. But it’s also amazingly healing because when it is broken, we are totally vulnerable and open .  They leave us during this period of heartache alone because on a soul level, we need to heal in solitude so we can build strength.  Sometimes the lost is so great, we can’t see the truth behind the pain. Once the air clears, we really do walk away from that relationship a better version of ourselves. That heart ache brings us life. It breaks our hearts and it makes us “feel” again.  No one wants to have their heart broken, but, how can we know how much we truly loved if we never experienced the lost.

I deliberately picked the Lovers and the World card, for my blog post today. I did this because I believe these two cards are a great way to show a soulmate connection. The lovers card can be mis-leading, although it says “ lovers” its not really about romance. Its about us coming to a decision in our lives and we are being asked to decide- and this card reminds us to follow our hearts and choose what we love and what will make us happy. When we re-incarnate, we actually choose our soul mate connections. We get together with our spiritual team and we ask what lessons can be learned and what experienced will help enlighten us. 

                You and your soul mate actually decided together- to have this connection in this life! Yes, it was no accident- it didn’t just happen and fate didn’t just align. You two came together and decided on a soul level, that you loved each other so much, that you would  do what was needed to help each other grow, even if it means hurting them like hell.  It is after all, for the greater good- like I said, you may not get it right now, but trust me ; it all happens for a reason.

                The World card is all about learning the lessons we are destined to learn and then restarting the cycle because we have a new lesson to learn.  You will find that you will often repeat soul mate connections. Not because the lesson didn’t get taught, but because you learned one lesson and its time to learn the next. Because of this, you never really forget. You can forgive and heal, but you never forget. Just as the world go rounds and round, so does your soulmate connections. It’s not a never ending cycle, don’t look at it like that. It’s more of an evolution cycle. Each time you end one chapter, you start a new one with new lessons for growth. One day You’ll complete your book, but that probably won’t be today.

Are you in need of healing?

Are you still broken from a previous love affair? Did the love of your life leave you broken and unable to heal? Maybe this is why you are so drawn to reading my work. Maybe you’ll find some comfort and learn something today. I don’t believe in accidents. I believe in synchronicity. I believe you came across my work at the perfect time for your soul. You have a fragile heart that is in need of deep healing and I’m happy to say that you can experience great healing today with the Full Moon we are experiencing at this very moment.

                No other card in the Tarot can symbolized this healing time more accurately that then the 8 of Cups.  There are many cards in the tarot that can symbolize healing and letting go, but for me- the 8 of cups has always shown me a soul mate connection that is in the works. The 8 of cups depicts a full moon, and a man who walks away with a cane in his hand. He is moving upwards and away- this shows his healing journey is beginning and it won’t be easy climbing over those emotional mountains but he is ready and willing. He has cane that he uses to support his journey, this cane is symbolic of your spiritual team at your side aiding you in your healing.  The 8 cups are all sitting upright which shows emotional fulfillment and a desire to heal.  The full moon is a great symbol for healing and letting go. If you wish to release anything, the full is the perfect time. Imagine your heart full of heartache and you’re ready to release it. It also depicts a new moon which is a great symbol for manifesting.

                After we decide to heal and are ready to let go, we can manifest love again! Let go during the full moon, and make room for new love at the new moon! What do you need to do to heal? Absolutely nothing! If you can across this article, its because your spiritual team is guiding you to it, they are letting you know you ready to heal and they are helping you. If you see the full moon tonight, breath and let go. Open your heart, feel it expand with each deep breath. As you exhale, release all that once was. 

Soul Mate Facts:

#1 Instant Connection - What is the first sign of a soul mate connection?  You meet and its instant connection. It’s like magnets- You’re drawn to each other.  It feels like it was just meant to be.

#2 you’ve known each other in another life.  Yes this is true. If you don’t believe in reincarnation that is ok, but I am willing to bet that most of you who are reading this, believe that its true. We have all lived many life times before this one, and everyone in our lives now, have lived with us in another life but probably played a different role. When you reconnect with your soulmate- its as if you’ve known each other before, there is a familiarity you feel on an energetic level.  You’re very comfortable with each other because there is no fear there.  They’ve been in your space before so you’re familiar with their energy. You’re more open to them because of that connection.

#3 They aren’t destined to stay- contrary to popular belief, a soul mate connection doesn’t always end in happily ever after. If it did- what would be the life lesson in that? Yes we all deserve happiness and all the bells and whistles, but the soul mate contract isn’t for that. You will meet someone one day, who you will love whole heartedly and grow old with but that perfect someone is very different from your soul mate.  Your soul mate- is someone you made a deal with in another life. You two came together and agree, together,  that you would help each other learn and grow. This growth requires heart ache.  Your soul mate will connect with you, open your heart, and then upon their exit, will crack it wide open. This devastating heart break will crack open your heart,  and allow you room for growth and maturity to prepare you for your life partner, the person your  meant to fall in love with and grow old with.  Your soul mate will come do his job, and upon completion, he will move on. Just as you will do the same. They don’t hold on because they aren’t supposed to. They are supposed to get you ready for a very big part of your life.  Because of this, Soul mate connections are often short lived.  Although they are gone, you never forget.

#4  their job is to help us open our hearts. I know when you get your heart broken, it’s very difficult to understand how this can be healing, How can this really open your heart, when you feel so broken you just want to build a wall and protect yourself?  We are supposed to learn to love and to forgive and let go. Life is full of ebbs and flows. When we fall in love, and we hold on, fear holds us back. Its stops our souls growth. We are afraid to live because we fear heart ache. That’s why we make these soul contracts- our soul mate has taken on that burden and challenge of breaking your heart.  They agree to do it because they love you so much that they know the hurt will be followed by amazing healing.  It’s like having kids, you have to let them fall and get hurt so they can learn and be better people. Soul mate relationships are the same thing, they come into our lives, awaken us, show us that we can be amazingly happy and then they walk out- they need to walk out because if they don’t, you’ll never learn what it means to really forgive and let go.  

#5 there is healing in heart ache. It sounds crazy I know, but it’s true.  You don’t know how alive you are until you’ve felt reality hit. Love is amazing and it can sweep us off our feet and take our heads into the clouds. Its takes away from reality and life which isn’t healthy. We are supposed to be human and feel humanly things. It’s what keeps us grounded.  To experience pain and suffering is to learn compassion and forgiveness. How can you learn one without the other?  People who live in “ lala land”  are still going through a big life lesson and maybe they needed a break this life time so they hit the pause button. They aren’t ready to heal, so they don’t want to feel anything. We call them “crazy” but in truth behind that is pure denial which is a protection mechanism. Again, on a soul level, there is a lot of lessons to be learned.  Do not judge because what if that was you?  What if you experienced such heart ache that you were afraid to love again so you hid in the darkest corners of your mind?  Does that shed new light and compassion? Let me also ask you, would you have that type of compassion had you not experience the lost yourself?  If you did not experience heartache you would not understand the pain, nor would you have the compassion to understand.  Do you see now, how a heart ache can be healing?

# 6 WE HAVE MANY SOUL MATES!  Did I just ruin your perfect fairy tale? I hate to burst your bubble, but its true. We have many soul mates. The myth “there is only one perfect person for me” is false! If this were true, we would never be happy.  The truth is we have many soul mates for different phases of our lives.  Don’t worry if you think the one you were destined to be with forever, doesn’t work out- I promise you somewhere in your life, another perfect fit will come along.

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A soul mate connection with break your heart.

It will crack your heart In a million pieces and fracture you to the core.

It will allow light to enter and healing can occur.

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My Energy Cleansing Tips!

The Basics : Energy cleanse can be done by anyone, at anytime!  There will be times where yes, you will need to hire someone to do it for you, but…. For the most part, You can totally do it yourself. It’s just like doing an oil change on your car. It’s easy, anyone can do it, but some prefer not to and rather pay the dealership to do it for them.

AURA CLEANSE

We all have an energetic field around our bodies. Our auras are like fluid magnets and things stick to them. Somethings stick more than others. Some things are yours, somethings belong to others. The more you have in your aura, the more heavy and dense it becomes which in a way – “wears your down” or “holds you back “

So what is it that sticks to the aura?   Negative thoughts, Negative comments, Negative actions, Psychic Attacks- Yes this happens.  Things that you get form others, and things you accumulate yourself, they all float in your aura, that is until you do a cleanse to clear it.

Signs your aura needs a cleanse: Feeling Tired, Fatigued, Cranky, Fearful, Jealous, Sickness,  Coughing, Sneezing. (Did you know that If you start sneezing, it’s a sign that something has entered your aura that shouldn’t be there? Yes, it can be allergies…. But is it allergy season?

Aura Cleanse! Salt Water Bath- its so easy and fun to do!

 

   What you'll need    

 - Bath Tub

 - Warm Water

 - 1 cup of Epsom  Salt

 - Candles and essential oils are optional 

                    

      If your feeling down, or just not right, or something just feels off- Trust you body as it could be telling you, You’ve accumulated stuff you don’t need and it’s time for cleansing bath. Don’t just take a bath just to take one, have the intention to take a bath to cleanse your aura. Do things with purpose with friends. You want to use about a cup of Epsom salt because it’s the right amount needed to be effective. Anything less than this- forget about it.  You will also then want to soak for 45 minutes, yes 45 minutes! Set your timer. Don’t rush this process. Why? Its takes 45 minutes for the salt bath to cycle through your aura to cleanse it. Depending on how heavy your aura is, you may need to repeat the bath several times.  After 45 minutes the aura has done its full cycle and your water is now full of “gunk”. It’s best to drain the water so it can go back into mother earth to be recycled.

My secret tip #1 – Intention!

                After your bath you should feel relaxed and often very sleepy. This is because your body just went through a lot of work to clear the junk. Allow yourself to take a nap or go to bed early, don’t fight it. Your body heals during sleep so it’s important you listen if you feel tired.        After you complete your cleanse, call on Arch Angel Michael to shield you by placing a protective bubble over your body to protect your aura- this will prevent anything that is not yours from re-attaching.  In general, this bubble is about the size of your arms spread out.  Ever feel like someone is in your space when they get to close? It’s because they are in your bubble- literally.  Its ok to step back and ask Arch Angel Michael to get them out of your bubble!

My secret tip #2 – Seal your Aura!

Energy Space CLEANSE

Cleansing the energy in your space- aka Sage Smudging

The act of burning sage to remove negative energy is not a new one, this is an ancient Native American tradition that has made its way to many different cultures. I was born and raised catholic, I remember growing up and attending Special evening mass, the priest would burn sage in a little metal ball and walk through out the church to “bless us” This is something the Catholic church still does. Most people are unaware of this but it’s true.  As a matter of Fact, we are coming up on Ash Wednesday! I’m pretty sure the church will be burning sage for this event. 

Let’s be clear about sage, there are many different types of sage. The one you want that will be most effective for cleansing your home is WHITE SAGE- (if you need something with an extra kick and a little bit extra Omph! Go for Mugwort. ) regular kitchen cooking, over the counter sage is ok- it will work, but you really want WHITE SAGE if you want to do it properly. I actually plant my own white sage, dry it and then bundle it for my own cleansing use.

My secret tip# 3 – Use White Sage

Signs you need to cleanse your space –

                                                               i.      If the house feels “dark” and the energy feels “heavy” or if there is a space or room you don’t like to enter, I recommend a good saging. This will help lift the negative energy from the space and make the space more inviting.

                                                             ii.      When ever you move into a new place- its good practice to sage before you move in to remove the previous home owners energy. This will truly make your space, your space!

                                                            iii.      There is an item you can’t get rid of or sale- your energy could be tied to this item which makes it hard to let go of. If you’re ready to let go of something but find it challenging, wave a little bit of sage over it and wish it well.

                                                           iv.      If you own a business- or any place with lots of energy going in and out- these areas will need to be cleansed often to keep the energy and mood light. The more people you have entering, the more  you’ll need to cleanse. Why? All those extra people going in and out of your business, they all have their own “ junk” when they come into your place of business, not only do they bring that junk with them, but they also leave a piece of it behind. Ever had to listen to a customer complain? Yup that energy totally sticks to the walls and under the cabinets.

Enery Cleanse - What do you do?

 Ingredients: 

 White Sage bundle - can be purchased online (Amazon, Etsy)

 -  I like to use my large Abalone shell- You can use also a metal or glass bowl -just make sure it is flame resistant

-Lighter and sand or salt to put out the fire when done.

 -Music that you enjoy

  First: Clean your space- Get rid of clutter, organize things, and vacuum or dust the                            area so its nice and clean.  If you smudge a messy space it is not as effective!

Two:  Play Music that you enjoy- listen to things that are soft or up beat. 

           Play jams that make you want to dance! It will help “jiggle out the old energy”

Three: Open a window! Even if it’s a small crack- You want to give the smudge smoke room              to carry away the negative energy. Don’t worry- when it gets released, mother earth                  picks it right back up and recycles it. The fairy’s love this stuff!

Four: Have your bowl ready, Say a Mini Prayer, and light your smudge stick- Start in one                   direction and go into a complete circle around that space. 

           I like to go from Right to Left- I usually have a compass and I find north and begin                  there.

My Mantra when I’m space clearing

“ Arch Angel Michael, please guide and protect me as I clear this space, Angels that be- please help remove any negative energy that no longer serves me, Please help me cleanse this space!”

                  

I do offer business and home cleansing within 2 Hours of Sacramento, CA –

Home Cleansing$100 

Business  Cleansing $ 175+ depending on size of business-

I do charge a traveling fee for any areas half an hour out of Sacramento, Please contact me for a free consult 

 tarotbycyndee@gmail.com


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