Soul Mate Connection and The Real Reason it hurts

You, Never Forget

                You meet someone, there is this instant connection and you connect on such a deep level, you don’t know it’s special. It just so magnetic and natural as if you’ve known each other before. You’re drawn like a moth to light. It just happens. That instant connection, that flick of flare, that beat that makes your heart skip, that’s a soul mate connection. The love of your life so to speak.  It’s also that terrible heart ache that rocks your world to the core. It’s that devastating blow to your world where you can’t speak, you can’t sleep and overall you just lose your sense of time. Nothing else matters. That terrible heart ache you never thought would end. Those endless nights you lay there awake, not able to sleep because you’re so overwhelmed by grief, it truly is a terrible loss.  It hurts, really, really , really hurts.

                I really loved the movie the Note Book. It’s one of my favorites.  Not because it was this cute love story, but because of its accurate portrayal of soulmates.   A boy falls in love and he never forgets. He gets older, but he never truly forgot her. He was lucky because in the end, he gets her back- but I have to say this isn’t always the case in real life.  And that’s ok! Soul mates, I hate to burst your bubble, but sometimes, (most of the time, ) you’re not supposed to live happily ever after! Everything has its cycle, and you get some and you lose some. Soul mates are no different, as a matter of fact, my angels have taught me, not only through my own life experiences, but for the clients I have read for, that soul mates come into a time in our lives when we are ready, they break our hearts so we can heal. When our hearts are broken, we can pick up the pieces and rebuild.

The cracking of our hearts is an amazing experiencing, that yes, hurts like hell. But it’s also amazingly healing because when it is broken, we are totally vulnerable and open .  They leave us during this period of heartache alone because on a soul level, we need to heal in solitude so we can build strength.  Sometimes the lost is so great, we can’t see the truth behind the pain. Once the air clears, we really do walk away from that relationship a better version of ourselves. That heart ache brings us life. It breaks our hearts and it makes us “feel” again.  No one wants to have their heart broken, but, how can we know how much we truly loved if we never experienced the lost.

I deliberately picked the Lovers and the World card, for my blog post today. I did this because I believe these two cards are a great way to show a soulmate connection. The lovers card can be mis-leading, although it says “ lovers” its not really about romance. Its about us coming to a decision in our lives and we are being asked to decide- and this card reminds us to follow our hearts and choose what we love and what will make us happy. When we re-incarnate, we actually choose our soul mate connections. We get together with our spiritual team and we ask what lessons can be learned and what experienced will help enlighten us. 

                You and your soul mate actually decided together- to have this connection in this life! Yes, it was no accident- it didn’t just happen and fate didn’t just align. You two came together and decided on a soul level, that you loved each other so much, that you would  do what was needed to help each other grow, even if it means hurting them like hell.  It is after all, for the greater good- like I said, you may not get it right now, but trust me ; it all happens for a reason.

                The World card is all about learning the lessons we are destined to learn and then restarting the cycle because we have a new lesson to learn.  You will find that you will often repeat soul mate connections. Not because the lesson didn’t get taught, but because you learned one lesson and its time to learn the next. Because of this, you never really forget. You can forgive and heal, but you never forget. Just as the world go rounds and round, so does your soulmate connections. It’s not a never ending cycle, don’t look at it like that. It’s more of an evolution cycle. Each time you end one chapter, you start a new one with new lessons for growth. One day You’ll complete your book, but that probably won’t be today.

Are you in need of healing?

Are you still broken from a previous love affair? Did the love of your life leave you broken and unable to heal? Maybe this is why you are so drawn to reading my work. Maybe you’ll find some comfort and learn something today. I don’t believe in accidents. I believe in synchronicity. I believe you came across my work at the perfect time for your soul. You have a fragile heart that is in need of deep healing and I’m happy to say that you can experience great healing today with the Full Moon we are experiencing at this very moment.

                No other card in the Tarot can symbolized this healing time more accurately that then the 8 of Cups.  There are many cards in the tarot that can symbolize healing and letting go, but for me- the 8 of cups has always shown me a soul mate connection that is in the works. The 8 of cups depicts a full moon, and a man who walks away with a cane in his hand. He is moving upwards and away- this shows his healing journey is beginning and it won’t be easy climbing over those emotional mountains but he is ready and willing. He has cane that he uses to support his journey, this cane is symbolic of your spiritual team at your side aiding you in your healing.  The 8 cups are all sitting upright which shows emotional fulfillment and a desire to heal.  The full moon is a great symbol for healing and letting go. If you wish to release anything, the full is the perfect time. Imagine your heart full of heartache and you’re ready to release it. It also depicts a new moon which is a great symbol for manifesting.

                After we decide to heal and are ready to let go, we can manifest love again! Let go during the full moon, and make room for new love at the new moon! What do you need to do to heal? Absolutely nothing! If you can across this article, its because your spiritual team is guiding you to it, they are letting you know you ready to heal and they are helping you. If you see the full moon tonight, breath and let go. Open your heart, feel it expand with each deep breath. As you exhale, release all that once was. 

Soul Mate Facts:

#1 Instant Connection - What is the first sign of a soul mate connection?  You meet and its instant connection. It’s like magnets- You’re drawn to each other.  It feels like it was just meant to be.

#2 you’ve known each other in another life.  Yes this is true. If you don’t believe in reincarnation that is ok, but I am willing to bet that most of you who are reading this, believe that its true. We have all lived many life times before this one, and everyone in our lives now, have lived with us in another life but probably played a different role. When you reconnect with your soulmate- its as if you’ve known each other before, there is a familiarity you feel on an energetic level.  You’re very comfortable with each other because there is no fear there.  They’ve been in your space before so you’re familiar with their energy. You’re more open to them because of that connection.

#3 They aren’t destined to stay- contrary to popular belief, a soul mate connection doesn’t always end in happily ever after. If it did- what would be the life lesson in that? Yes we all deserve happiness and all the bells and whistles, but the soul mate contract isn’t for that. You will meet someone one day, who you will love whole heartedly and grow old with but that perfect someone is very different from your soul mate.  Your soul mate- is someone you made a deal with in another life. You two came together and agree, together,  that you would help each other learn and grow. This growth requires heart ache.  Your soul mate will connect with you, open your heart, and then upon their exit, will crack it wide open. This devastating heart break will crack open your heart,  and allow you room for growth and maturity to prepare you for your life partner, the person your  meant to fall in love with and grow old with.  Your soul mate will come do his job, and upon completion, he will move on. Just as you will do the same. They don’t hold on because they aren’t supposed to. They are supposed to get you ready for a very big part of your life.  Because of this, Soul mate connections are often short lived.  Although they are gone, you never forget.

#4  their job is to help us open our hearts. I know when you get your heart broken, it’s very difficult to understand how this can be healing, How can this really open your heart, when you feel so broken you just want to build a wall and protect yourself?  We are supposed to learn to love and to forgive and let go. Life is full of ebbs and flows. When we fall in love, and we hold on, fear holds us back. Its stops our souls growth. We are afraid to live because we fear heart ache. That’s why we make these soul contracts- our soul mate has taken on that burden and challenge of breaking your heart.  They agree to do it because they love you so much that they know the hurt will be followed by amazing healing.  It’s like having kids, you have to let them fall and get hurt so they can learn and be better people. Soul mate relationships are the same thing, they come into our lives, awaken us, show us that we can be amazingly happy and then they walk out- they need to walk out because if they don’t, you’ll never learn what it means to really forgive and let go.  

#5 there is healing in heart ache. It sounds crazy I know, but it’s true.  You don’t know how alive you are until you’ve felt reality hit. Love is amazing and it can sweep us off our feet and take our heads into the clouds. Its takes away from reality and life which isn’t healthy. We are supposed to be human and feel humanly things. It’s what keeps us grounded.  To experience pain and suffering is to learn compassion and forgiveness. How can you learn one without the other?  People who live in “ lala land”  are still going through a big life lesson and maybe they needed a break this life time so they hit the pause button. They aren’t ready to heal, so they don’t want to feel anything. We call them “crazy” but in truth behind that is pure denial which is a protection mechanism. Again, on a soul level, there is a lot of lessons to be learned.  Do not judge because what if that was you?  What if you experienced such heart ache that you were afraid to love again so you hid in the darkest corners of your mind?  Does that shed new light and compassion? Let me also ask you, would you have that type of compassion had you not experience the lost yourself?  If you did not experience heartache you would not understand the pain, nor would you have the compassion to understand.  Do you see now, how a heart ache can be healing?

# 6 WE HAVE MANY SOUL MATES!  Did I just ruin your perfect fairy tale? I hate to burst your bubble, but its true. We have many soul mates. The myth “there is only one perfect person for me” is false! If this were true, we would never be happy.  The truth is we have many soul mates for different phases of our lives.  Don’t worry if you think the one you were destined to be with forever, doesn’t work out- I promise you somewhere in your life, another perfect fit will come along.

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A soul mate connection with break your heart.

It will crack your heart In a million pieces and fracture you to the core.

It will allow light to enter and healing can occur.

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My Energy Cleansing Tips!

The Basics : Energy cleanse can be done by anyone, at anytime!  There will be times where yes, you will need to hire someone to do it for you, but…. For the most part, You can totally do it yourself. It’s just like doing an oil change on your car. It’s easy, anyone can do it, but some prefer not to and rather pay the dealership to do it for them.

AURA CLEANSE

We all have an energetic field around our bodies. Our auras are like fluid magnets and things stick to them. Somethings stick more than others. Some things are yours, somethings belong to others. The more you have in your aura, the more heavy and dense it becomes which in a way – “wears your down” or “holds you back “

So what is it that sticks to the aura?   Negative thoughts, Negative comments, Negative actions, Psychic Attacks- Yes this happens.  Things that you get form others, and things you accumulate yourself, they all float in your aura, that is until you do a cleanse to clear it.

Signs your aura needs a cleanse: Feeling Tired, Fatigued, Cranky, Fearful, Jealous, Sickness,  Coughing, Sneezing. (Did you know that If you start sneezing, it’s a sign that something has entered your aura that shouldn’t be there? Yes, it can be allergies…. But is it allergy season?

Aura Cleanse! Salt Water Bath- its so easy and fun to do!

 

   What you'll need    

 - Bath Tub

 - Warm Water

 - 1 cup of Epsom  Salt

 - Candles and essential oils are optional 

                    

      If your feeling down, or just not right, or something just feels off- Trust you body as it could be telling you, You’ve accumulated stuff you don’t need and it’s time for cleansing bath. Don’t just take a bath just to take one, have the intention to take a bath to cleanse your aura. Do things with purpose with friends. You want to use about a cup of Epsom salt because it’s the right amount needed to be effective. Anything less than this- forget about it.  You will also then want to soak for 45 minutes, yes 45 minutes! Set your timer. Don’t rush this process. Why? Its takes 45 minutes for the salt bath to cycle through your aura to cleanse it. Depending on how heavy your aura is, you may need to repeat the bath several times.  After 45 minutes the aura has done its full cycle and your water is now full of “gunk”. It’s best to drain the water so it can go back into mother earth to be recycled.

My secret tip #1 – Intention!

                After your bath you should feel relaxed and often very sleepy. This is because your body just went through a lot of work to clear the junk. Allow yourself to take a nap or go to bed early, don’t fight it. Your body heals during sleep so it’s important you listen if you feel tired.        After you complete your cleanse, call on Arch Angel Michael to shield you by placing a protective bubble over your body to protect your aura- this will prevent anything that is not yours from re-attaching.  In general, this bubble is about the size of your arms spread out.  Ever feel like someone is in your space when they get to close? It’s because they are in your bubble- literally.  Its ok to step back and ask Arch Angel Michael to get them out of your bubble!

My secret tip #2 – Seal your Aura!

Energy Space CLEANSE

Cleansing the energy in your space- aka Sage Smudging

The act of burning sage to remove negative energy is not a new one, this is an ancient Native American tradition that has made its way to many different cultures. I was born and raised catholic, I remember growing up and attending Special evening mass, the priest would burn sage in a little metal ball and walk through out the church to “bless us” This is something the Catholic church still does. Most people are unaware of this but it’s true.  As a matter of Fact, we are coming up on Ash Wednesday! I’m pretty sure the church will be burning sage for this event. 

Let’s be clear about sage, there are many different types of sage. The one you want that will be most effective for cleansing your home is WHITE SAGE- (if you need something with an extra kick and a little bit extra Omph! Go for Mugwort. ) regular kitchen cooking, over the counter sage is ok- it will work, but you really want WHITE SAGE if you want to do it properly. I actually plant my own white sage, dry it and then bundle it for my own cleansing use.

My secret tip# 3 – Use White Sage

Signs you need to cleanse your space –

                                                               i.      If the house feels “dark” and the energy feels “heavy” or if there is a space or room you don’t like to enter, I recommend a good saging. This will help lift the negative energy from the space and make the space more inviting.

                                                             ii.      When ever you move into a new place- its good practice to sage before you move in to remove the previous home owners energy. This will truly make your space, your space!

                                                            iii.      There is an item you can’t get rid of or sale- your energy could be tied to this item which makes it hard to let go of. If you’re ready to let go of something but find it challenging, wave a little bit of sage over it and wish it well.

                                                           iv.      If you own a business- or any place with lots of energy going in and out- these areas will need to be cleansed often to keep the energy and mood light. The more people you have entering, the more  you’ll need to cleanse. Why? All those extra people going in and out of your business, they all have their own “ junk” when they come into your place of business, not only do they bring that junk with them, but they also leave a piece of it behind. Ever had to listen to a customer complain? Yup that energy totally sticks to the walls and under the cabinets.

Enery Cleanse - What do you do?

 Ingredients: 

 White Sage bundle - can be purchased online (Amazon, Etsy)

 -  I like to use my large Abalone shell- You can use also a metal or glass bowl -just make sure it is flame resistant

-Lighter and sand or salt to put out the fire when done.

 -Music that you enjoy

  First: Clean your space- Get rid of clutter, organize things, and vacuum or dust the                            area so its nice and clean.  If you smudge a messy space it is not as effective!

Two:  Play Music that you enjoy- listen to things that are soft or up beat. 

           Play jams that make you want to dance! It will help “jiggle out the old energy”

Three: Open a window! Even if it’s a small crack- You want to give the smudge smoke room              to carry away the negative energy. Don’t worry- when it gets released, mother earth                  picks it right back up and recycles it. The fairy’s love this stuff!

Four: Have your bowl ready, Say a Mini Prayer, and light your smudge stick- Start in one                   direction and go into a complete circle around that space. 

           I like to go from Right to Left- I usually have a compass and I find north and begin                  there.

My Mantra when I’m space clearing

“ Arch Angel Michael, please guide and protect me as I clear this space, Angels that be- please help remove any negative energy that no longer serves me, Please help me cleanse this space!”

                  

I do offer business and home cleansing within 2 Hours of Sacramento, CA –

Home Cleansing$100 

Business  Cleansing $ 175+ depending on size of business-

I do charge a traveling fee for any areas half an hour out of Sacramento, Please contact me for a free consult 

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Anger and How to handle it

             I experienced some intense anger issues this week, It was so bad that I actually had chest pains and lost sleep.  It has been so long that I have been triggered in this way that I was truly at a lost in my life. I wanted to quit my day job, I wanted to cut people off because I felt I was mistreated and ultimately all this anger totally ate away at me internally. I became a victim.

 After a rough week at work, I laid in bed and I could not stop thinking. I was so upset that finally at 11pm I said “ I had enough!” and I got up and started to work on my arts and craft. ( I am a Happy planner ) I didn’t go to bed til 3am that morning and what I found during this period was relief.  By the end of my crafting session – all my anger melted away and I had an “ AHA MOMENT”

               

         With every beautiful page I created, I had an epiphany."What others do to you is a reflection of their karma, what you do in return to them is a reflection of your own karma. Don’t allow someone else’s negativity make you into a negative person yourself.  "  The joy of doing what I loved, Open my heart and took me out of victim mode. It made me see things in a different light. When you are angry- all you see is tunnel vision and you can’t see clearly. 

What does Anger really mean?

          Anger: Is a survival emotion. We are taught that anger is frowned upon and we shouldn’t feel it. We are taught to be ashamed of it and that we shouldn’t show it. But what we aren’t told is that anger is a survival tool for us. It alerts us when something isn’t right and we need to make a change. Anger that is well managed is healthy and necessary.

                So what is anger?  It is an intense emotional response. It is triggered by agitation. On a physical level it raises our heart rate and blood pressure because we must prepare for “ fight or flight.”   Most anger stems from fear. It is usually a learned response and when someone or something over steps its boundaries and makes us feel violated; we respond with anger. Anger is a sign that something is wrong and we need to make changes. If we don’t make the changes needed, the anger continues and it can become destructive. Hence why people have “ anger issues”

Result of anger:

1.       Anger that is not managed will cause us to have a lack of trust. We are less likely to see the good in others because we are always suspicious. We don’t trust people so that makes it hard for us to form healthy relationships. People who have anger issues are very guarded and don’t let people in easily.

2.       We become victims.  Anger takes away our power if we don’t address. You become a victim when you start to play the blame game. Blaming others and shifting blame is a sign that you have unmanaged anger issues. Anger is an ego response that takes away your own personal power because you fail to see your own fault in the situation- You can’t see you have a problem because your too angry and upset with the other person. Anger is usually a sign that something is wrong with yourself internally. You can’t fix this problem if you continue to blame others- hence victim mode. You feel attacked.

3.       Creates Unhealthy responses:

a.       Anger that is out of control results in hostility. If you’ve gotten to this point- you really need to take a time out and realize that something is seriously wrong.

b.       Anger that you are unaware of means that you don't know how to manage it. This will result in passive aggressiveness or withdraw. You don’t know what to do so you pass it off or try to ignore it.            

c.       Resentment – you can’t let go. This is very unhealthy for you because it creates walls and blocks your journey to healing because you fail to want to find a resolution. Forgiveness is not about letting others walk all over you, it’s about your need to be free. When you forgive, you’re not giving the other person a pass on their bad behavior- your giving yourself a pass on holding on to anger. Remember, What others do to you is a reflection of their karma, what you do in return to them is a reflection of your own karma.

How to Manage and Control Anger in healthy ways

                Contrary to popular belief, anger can be a healthy sign. Anger is a survival tool given to us to help us navigate life. It arrives to alert us that something is not right and we need to make a healthy change.  Everyone gets upset from time to time and that’s OK! When the anger spirals into something that is hostile, draining and affects you on a larger scale then yes, something is terribly wrong and needs to be addressed asap. But with anything, small amounts is healthy.  Anger does not blow up overnight. It is something that happens in stages. Agitation that is not addressed will turn into a boiling pot and if not controlled, will one day blow up.

1.       You can start addressing anger by paying attention to your facial expressions. If you notice you tend to frown, or tense your eyebrows or clench your jaws- this is the first sign that something is not right.  These are things we do without realizing it. If you find yourself in this situation, check in with yourself- ask yourself, what is causing the agitation. We tend to try to avoid addressing the agitation but change anger at its core and address it. Something you don’t like is upsetting you and you must figure out what it is and why so you can become aware of it and start making healthy changes.

2.       Negative talk- the victim mentality. Stop talking about- stop going in circles about it. Anger will get fueled the more you talk about it. Don’t listen to others negativity as it will also fuel your own fire. This happened to me at work, I was manipulated by a co-worker and I was completely unaware of it! When you find yourself wanting to talk about things that upset you- redirect that energy. Change your heart to a grateful one and count your blessings. Learn to express your anger in a healthy way. You can talk about it in a non-hostile manner. Trust me, I have days where I drop F* Bombs and I know once I say it, I’m done. Its over. I don’t dwell on it.

3.       Passive Aggressive behavior- I like to call this “ tit for tat” or "pointing fingers" STOP IT. This need to get others or point out others issues is a bad reflection on you.  If you find you are wanting to get others in trouble, or feel the need to point out their problems, you must re-direct your energy.  When you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything. Someone who likes to talk with their hands is ok, when they directly point fingers- be aware of this person.

4.       Hostile energy – If you go from zero to 100 in a matter of seconds, you have anger issues that are not well managed and you are borderline self-destruction.  You need to take a time out. If you are around people like this, you must step away. Your energy at this point is poorly managed and the first step towards repairing it is self-healing.  Your hostility is not a response to what others did to you, it’s a response to your own lack of self-care.

How do I address my anger Issues today:

        I understand now that my anger issues are a sign that something is wrong, I am someone who likes to fix things and I’m a problem solver. When something isn’t right, I first look at myself, “what am I feeling and why” then I address the issue. I don’t dwell in the frustration anymore, I’ve learned that I perform my best when I focus on the issue and seek a solution. I’ve learned to address my anger in healthy ways and as response it’s become an uncomfortable emotion that now empowers me. I’m very proud of myself now because I’ve come along ways.  When I am so upset I can’t find a solution, I focus on self care.

-I get more sleep, when we are tired we are crankier. Get some rest and check back in how you feel tomorrow.

-Take a bath – You can make your own bath bombs to help with this experience. They are super easy to make, and I               LOVE how clear my aura is after a good soak.

  Click Here for a link to a great How-To.  

-Attempt to read a good Book : To try to stop the mind chatter, I try to read books.

-Work on my happy planner. When I do what I love, it totally melts away all my frustration. 

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How Can I attract my Soul Mate

This Months Daily Dose of Inspirations is all about attracting the right Soul Mate. Before you proceed with your answers, please make sure that you only PICKED ONE CARD. Some people will want to pick more than one card and that will set you up for confusion. If you are drawn to more then one card, your ego is trying to confuse you, close your eyes and ask your angels to guide you to one card.

This week I had many request about finding their soulmate.  I'd like to share with you all that we have many soul mates in our life and its not just one perfect love in a lifetime.  Most people want to find that perfect love story but in order for us to attract our soul mates, we must first work on ourselves so that we are ready for them when they arrive. This reading is not designed to show you where you can find the love of your life. Instead... It will offer you guidance on what blockages you have currently and what you can do to open up so that you can attract your soul mate.

1. Four of Cups Reversed: those of you who are drawn to this card, Maybe love hasn't worked out so well for you in the past and you may be feeling like love is hopeless. This card is a message to not lose hope. When you think of love remember to focus on the cup being half full and  not empty. We will attract the energy we give out so if you feel like love is hopeless, you will have a very hard time attracting the love of your life. If you are currently in a relationship- this card could  be a sign that you are focused too much on the negativity of the relationship- change your energy by shifting to being grateful- focus on the good stuff in your partner and you will shift your love life.


2. Ace of Pentacles: Your ability to manifest love in your life is closer than you think. This card is a grounding one. Its one that reminds you that the love you wish to manifest is already with in you. Don't dwaddle off into LALA land and think about fairy tales. Instead, think about who you are and what you NEED in a lover. This is a card about you bringing to fruitation what you NEED.  Be very clear at this moment about what you need in a soulmate and you'll will find that the journey to meeting that person is sooner then you think .  You are ready to be matched with your soul mate and you just need to let the  universe know what you want so that she can put the balls in motion for you two to cross paths.  If your in a relationship- you will benefit by getting clear in what you need with your partner.


3. Five of Wands :This card shows me for those of you who are single, You will have some interesting encounters with people.  You'll probably date a few frogs before you meet your prince or princess. Have no worries as this is a time for you to date around and find what you like. This card is showing that you are not sure what you want or need in a partner so the universe would like to go through some experience to create your  perfect mate.  If your not dating, this card is encouraging you to get out of your comfort zone. Those of you who are in a relationship- you may find that the current challenges you are faced with are only minor and things will resume peace shortly.


4.  The Fool : Did you see my newsletter? If not, check out my newsletter for messages from the fool. The fool is here to guide you to close your eyes, ask for love, and when you open your eyes- just do what ever guidance you receive. It could be " leave the current relationship, seek couples counseling, start dating, work on self improvement, take a class, get a new job, make new friends" what ever the guidance is- just trust it. The fool is a message that he will take you on a journey to find your soul mate, but first you must learn to trust him and go where ever he leads.


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5 Ways to Battle Negativity

5 Ways to Battle Negativity

1.       Walk away. I can’t tell you all how much this simple step can be such challenge at times, yes is probably the most effective first step. It’s why I’ve placed it at the top. When You Make that first Conscious step to walk way, your listening to your inner guidance system. When you are around negativity, your body will feel it right away, there is no 5 second delay- you will automatically know. Most people choose to ignore these signs continue to stay in bad situations. Regardless of who are you are with, if you feel their negativity- walk away! 

2.       Friends Connection: Facebook, Instagram, your own personal phone book-  Don’t allow negative people to enter your space, if you have people on your friends list who like to share negative things- unfollow them. Ignore their comments, I can’t tell you how many people will get really upset because they misread a text or a comment or a post. Do yourself a favor and DON’T ENGAGE.  Someone made a negative remark- Don’t engage, ignore it. If you feel the need to say something- Your are opening yourself up to being attacked. Why do that to yourself?

3.        Get Enough sleep. When we don’t get enough rest, our nerves are shot and we are much more irritable. We’re tired, we’re cranky. We will react in a way that we don’t want to. Do yourself a favor, if you’ve had a long day, turn off your phone, don’t watch the news, and just rest.

4.       Surround yourself in positive energy. Make sure you love what you see. Have beautiful images in your phone and in your home that keep your spirits high. If you have something you don’t like, but you keep it because you might need it? Toss it, it’s just useless junk if you don’t love it.

5.       Crystal Protection: First off, the main question I get all the time about crystals is  “ DO THEY REALLY WORK” – and I will tell you with 110 percent confidence- YES! The key is to find ones that serve your purpose.

                                                ·   MY GO TO CYSTALS FOR NEGATIVITY

a.       Black Tourmaline : Is my number one crystal for negativity. It’s very gentle, yet very effective.  This is a protective crystal. It shields you aura and puts up a protective shield so that negativity cannot attach to you.  If you are around lots of negative people or feel like your being “attacked” carry this crystal.

b.      Tigers Eye:  This crystal will keep you grounded in chaos and high stress situation. If you work in a very busy environment, work more then one job, or just very busy person, use this crystal. It will Keep your energy clear and calm. I will often recommend this crystal to mothers also because when you have more than one child, things at home can sometimes be chaotic.

       c.       Amethyst: Is a very pretty purple crystal. It’s one that most of you will recognize as it is very easily found.  This crystal is a talisman for those who choose to work with it. It will protect you against others negativity by taking others negative thoughts and returning them to the universe. It’s a healing crystal so it will also help remove your own negative thoughts and energy and recycles that energy into the universe.

All these crystals are easily available at your local metaphysical store.

You can also purchase these online, I would highly recommend you check out Etsy.com if you choose to purchase crystals. 

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5 Tips to improve your Intuition as a Tarot Reader

1. Follow your heart :
There are no rules! Do what feels right. Check out a few different styles and techniques and use them. You won't know if they're for you until you try them. Play with them and make them your own.

 2. Intention!
Be very clear about what you want to know. The more precise you are about your questions and the lay out, the clearer the reading will be. If you just lay 3 cards and ask " what is my message" This will be confusing as you won't have a clear understanding of how your are suppose to decipher the cards. The art of card reading is not memorizing the meanings but being able to decipher the card so that it applies to the question or position it is in. For example, the Tower in the past position will be very different to the tower in the future position. My point? KNOW YOUR LAYOUT. If you don't know, make sure you figure it out. Make it up! It doesn't matter, as long as you understand why that card is there. You'll find my 13 moons spread gives you very clear questions to follow.

 3. Love-
You must LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your cards. If you don't connect with them, you might as well say good bye to them. Your relationship with your cards is what builds your accuracy. You have to learn to trust their guidance and they in return must learn to connect with you. Once you have a deck of cards that you enjoy, fuse your energy with them, sleep with them under your pillow, carry them in your purse and use them ALL THE TIME. When ever I bring home a new deck I like to set them in with the "welcoming committee" Its a box with all my decks. It's their home, its like introducing a new puppy to the family.

 4. Be the avid Student-
Study your cards: I mean it. Look at them, analyze them and try to understand their story. Every deck has its own theme and story depending on the author and artist. And know their purpose is for you. No matter how long you've been reading the cards or how advance you think you are, the best way to approach the cards is as the student. If you knew it all, you wound't be using the cards. Treat the cards with respect and let them be your teacher and guide.

 5. Practice, Practice Practice
Why? because it builds TRUST. If you want to be an accurate reader, first and formost, you must accept and trust the messages being given. If you find you don't understand the meaning and your constantly pulling more cards, you need to revist #4. THE CARDS ARE NEVER WRONG MY FRIENDS, NEVER. I always trust that the card I'm being shown, some way- somehow is the answer i'm seeking. If i'm unclear, I will pull one or 2 cards for clarification. If I'm still at a lost, either myself or my cards need a good clearing. ( if you find you don't like your card and so you keep pulling cards to get the one you want, you must stop. This type of energy builds inaccuracy, inconsistency and just sets you up for bad habits) Once in a blue moon, I will get a client who will not accept my message and insist I pull another card and another and another, out of respect for my spiritual work and cards, I usually will not keep them as clients. That's how much I value and trust my cards.

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13 Full moons spread for 2017

Depending on the year, sometimes one month can have 13 full moons and other years it does not. It is why it’s called the 13 moons spread. This lucky and super energy filled 13^th moon is often called the Blue Moon. During a blue moon the energy is magnified and is a perfect time to harness its magical power. Unfortunately we won’t get another blue moon until 2018, but no worries. You’ll have a great time working with this spread none the less.  For this year, use the 13^th moon as a guide to what you need to let go this year. ( For me, Its a year to talk less and listen more, hence the reason I will be writing a book this year)

            If you’ve worked with me, you know I work closely with the cycles of the moons.  Majority of my life’s work has also been due to the ebb and flows of the moon. To keep things simple I’ll keep my focus only Full moons and what they mean to you. A full moon is a great time to let go of things that you no longer need. When you release energy, it makes room for new energy to enter your life and if you do it correctly, you can manifest so much abundance.

            Why is the full moon so beneficial?  The earths waters is controlled by the moon, when the moon is in close rotation, the oceans have stronger currents. I’m not sure about all the little details but from my understanding, it’s because of gravity.  Didn’t know that did you? The sun and Moon are responsible for the tides of the ocean. For some odd reason, I remembered this little lesson from elementary school.  As human beings, we are made up mostly of 60 percent water also- that’s a whole lot of water. Because of this, the moon also moves and affects our energies.  Ever heard how during a full moon people go crazy, Studies have also shown that Emergency rooms tend to be much busier during a full moon.

 How to do this Spread

To prepare for this reading, you must cleanse your tarot deck before you proceed. The reason for this is because you want to clear any energies it has picked up and you want to accept only the divine energy from your spiritual support team. It’s necessary to cleanse your deck every time for most tarot readings, but most defiantly if you will be doing this spread.

            To cleanse you can do it how you wish, if you need help I have 3 great techniques

     1.  During a full moon – leave your cards in the window or outside if possible so the moon can clear its energies.  

2.    Burn Sage over your cards. Sage is a great cleanser of negative energy. You can buy bundles of dried sage at any new age store or you can order them on amazon for a pretty reasonable price. find it on AMAZON here if you love to support local business and don’t mind spending a bit more, you can also find it on Etsy

3.  If you’re a crystal lover like me, You can place a crystal quartz crystal and a Carnelian crystal on top of your deck for 24 hrs. Quarts is an amplifier and carnelian is a great energy cleanser. Carnelian itself does a good job and I keep one with my cards in their home, but I also love to add to quartz to magnifies its effects. I really love the squeaky clean after I’ve done this.

            In this wonderful spread, I offer you a great way to release what no longer serves you. I hope you use it with this intention because that’s the goal of this spread. It’s not help you manifest a new career or find love, but if you let go of the energies that hold you back, you will find that manifesting a new career or finding love much easier!

ANYONE CAN DO THIS SPREAD! You don’t need a professional to do it, if you want one done for you, I’d be happy to help but please, try it out for yourself! I promise you this spread will not disappoint. All you need is:

1.      Deck of cards- tarot or oracles work fine either way

2.      If you have a printer great- if not draw the spread on paper in your journal

3.      The intention of clearing energy. It’s the only thing you should be doing during a full moon- RELEASING.  If you wish to manifest, keep an out for my February Newsletter where I will be discussing Manifesting Spreads.

What you can expect:

Each card placement will have the date of a full moon. Any card that is placed in this area will relates to you at that time, each season of the year will have a theme to help you with this understanding.  Each Full moon will have a purpose and you’ll learn that in this spread.  It’s really fun! In a separate file you’ll be able to download a free printable so you can write on! It’s a great way to do your own reading! Plus you get an idea of this reading flows because I’ll share with you, my very own 2017- 13 full moons spread! It’s so fun to see every ones reading so please, feel free to share! If you need help deciphering, please comment in this blog post below.

Note: this spread is based off of the full moon cycles for those of us on the Western hemisphere of the world, I’m in California. If you are not on this side of the world, you’ll need to figure out when your full moons arrive- it should be a day or two off.  No big deal but if you want to be precise, I advise you look it up.

Also* The reading will start with December 2017 to make the chart flow better. You’ll actually start your work with this spread on Jan 12.

Ready? Download your free printable here!

 Example: My own personal reading

I used Collete Baron-Reid “Enchanted Oracle Map”  because it’s the deck that spoke to me when I was preparing for this reading. You can use any type of cards you wish. There is no right or wrong way to do it.

            I start with my center card, Listening,  during my full moon work, I must remind to listen more and talk less. Focus less on my mind chatter and learn to be still in silence so spirit can speak to me. I can’t hear the guidance if I’m not quiet.  This sets the tone for my whole year, I must spend my year learning to listen. This card is also an answer to my goals. This year I seek more success in my business and if I allow myself to be still, I will hear my guides guidance on the best steps to take.

            During the cold winter months, It’s a period for us all to rest and rejuvenate, I always think of the bear going into hibernation and this how the full moon speaks to me in these following winter months.  The energies I am being asked to release during this period has one specific goal- free up my energy so I can rest.

            I start my clearing with  Jan 12 full moon-  Encouragement- I will prepare myself the days coming up to release my anxiety of doing all this work on my own. I have to trust that my journey is fully supported by the universe and every step I’m being guided to take will take me towards success. As I’m contemplating this card, I’m being told “ cut back my hours at my day job, I need to rest more” I’m not being told to cut back my day job so I can dedicate more time and energy to my Tarot work, I literally need to work less all together and rest.  Home  card gives me a focus for February as I practice patience at home, I laughed when I saw this card as my home life is extremely challenging with a terrible toddler going through a very difficult time, I must remind self “ this too shall past” and when the February 10 arrives, I will sit in the moonlight and release all that frustration and pray. I know the reading starts with December, but we’ll come back to that.

            In the spring, we will plant seeds and watch at the flowers bloom. This season is all about new growth and that is exactly what we all want right? After coming out of hibernation, should be full of energy and life. We are being asked to purge the energies in the spring season to make room for great growth! Magical Power-  shows me as I awaken in March, I must release my worries. At the full moon, I will write down my concerns and release them and trust that my prayers will be heard. I am not asking for anything other then the release of my worries. As I prepare for April, Making a Choice – arrives. This card reminds of the encouragement cards message of cutting back work, in my physical world, I now must take that step and cut back my hours. If I want to harness the power of April’s full moon, this choice must be finalized.  Peaks of joy-  Shows me that I must go out and have fun, let go of this need to stay in to conserve my energy, it’s spring! GO OUT AND ENJOY THE FLOWERS! This May full moon is asking that I release my need to stay in my shell.

Summer is a beauty time for us to find out strength. The sun shines brightest and fills our aura’s with lots of energy. I plan to use these summer months to release things so I can be empowered. Unexpected Visitors- Shows me that my weakest trait is that I don’t plan. I’m not prepared for what the world is giving me. If I want to empower myself, Plan! It’s the number reasons why I invested in my planners! July is a magical time of year – it’s the month where the universe opens its doors for our dreams to be fulfilled.  Solitude- shows me that the key to my success is silence.  If I want to pursue my dreams, learn to be still.  Magical Stream- My biggest mistake is not understand that everything is related. The choices I made years ago, are manifesting themselves to day. I release this ignorance and I now understand every choice has a re-action.

            Of all the Full moons of the year, The harvest moon is my favorite. It’s the one I used to manifest my tarot business many moons ago. In the fall, it’s a time for us to “clean house” and declutter.  Septembers harvest moon Cleaning house- makes its presence. How funny is that? Accident? I think not. I often spend my September months clearing my house and physical space. I will sit still in my clean room and just breath in the new energy. The physical removal of “stuff” always feels so great.  I clean all the time, but during September I really get down to business. In October, be prepared to let an old part of you die. Literally, shed that old skin. My Coming to life- card is telling me to be like a butterfly in a cocoon.  Shed my casing so I can awaken. I must take a look a hard look at myself and say bye to a part of me that no longer exist. I wont know what to expect when October comes, but I’m sure some challenges are sure to entail as death is not an easy process. I know though, when this time comes, the challenges I will be faced with, I understand it’s because I need to let go that part of myself.  November, I am a firm believer in past lives, I know that I have made choices in another life that are holding me back now, if I want to empower my current life, I need to let go of the old bonds that chain me. The Bone Collector- reminds me that my past has no hold on me now or my goals. I was a killed in many past lives for my spiritual work and she is here to remind me that I must let go of those fears that is not my story this lifetime.  I am pretty open about my spiritual work yet at the same  time reserved out of fear.

            My year will end as where It began, in the winter months. Back to sleep into hibernation I will go as I prepare for my next cycle of 2018.  I say goodbye to 2017 on Dec 3 as I enter the ghost lands.  I know my story, my challenges of 2017 will stay exactly there, in the ghost lands, the land of 2017. I can enter 2018 with so much love and joy because I only bring great forces with me. 

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